Hey Frank,
I was reading your blog and I was pretty intrigued by your offer of asking you for advice. Since I’m kind of curious about a man’s perspective, I wanted to see what you would say about this…
I don’t know if you’ve been keeping up with my blogs (http://sexconfessions69.wordpress.com ), but the second to latest post was about me feeling as if I were invisible in general. For me being such a closet sex fiend, I find it almost impossible for guys to think of me as some kind of sexual object. I know my sex stuff backwards and forwards, and…knowing my blogs…I’ve had my share of experiences. But what can I do in my average everyday life to get guys to see me as the sex fiend that I am, without having to blatantly tell them?
What do you think?
Looking forward to your reply,
SC69
Answer:
What’s up SC69!
Interesting question, on Valentine’s day no less…huh? 
Well, I read the blog in question and I also read your rant from yesterday. I’ll address them both. Let me start by saying…I think you’re fabulous! And you are 100% correct! The frank truth is…society has a double standard and ALWAYS will.
On this subject of self-respect…I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard guys say they would NEVER marry a woman that gives it up on the first date. All the while, that’s exactly what’s on their mind…fucking you at the very first opportunity. And most women share this same archaic point of view. I view this as complete hypocrisy and a waste of time for men and women…especially women! Consider this…you make a guy wait…a week, a month, whatever threshold you come up with…all the while he’s fucking someone else while waiting for you! Trust me…the only men who don’t, don’t have options! After you decide to fuck him, he leaves you anyway. You just wasted how many days of your life???
Same waste of time for dumb-ass guys who think women that make them wait are “worthy”. She makes you wait and then you find that pussy you waited so long for isn’t worth the time you put in. Or worse, maybe it is at first and then she stops fucking you. Either way…look at you now!
I consider myself a non-conformist thinker. I don’t participate in “group-think”. If I happen to agree with the masses…so be it, but I never conform for the sake of fitting in. You strike me as the same sort of person. Stay that way!
All that said, when I look at your two blogs together and consider your question…it’s clear you want to “have your cake and eat it too”. And that’s ok…there’s nothing wrong with that in my opinion, but you have to take it as it’s served. You say you want guys to notice you without blatantly advertsing your sexuality. Well, there are a lot of factors to consider. Is it your style of dress, your physical appearance, your attitude? While all these things matter, know this: you can absolutely attract guys with the right mix and not be the prettiest girl in the room. I don’t know where you rank on the scale, but a sexy, confident 6 can beat out a 10, especially with your kind of experience and knowledge. So, how do you let guys know?
You could dress and talk more provocatively…you could be more outgoing and aggressive…you can outright tell people who you are. But, you obviously know it’s unrealistic to not expect guys/people to judge based on your actions. It’s a double-edged sword. So, decide where your balance is. How much do you want to reveal in contrast to how much shit you want to take from people…whether it be comments or more importantly attracting the wrong guys. Do you want to stay in the closet or BURST out???
It certainly sounds like you at least want to crack the door open a bit. I think you’re on the right path. Slowly open the door and let the right people in…
Frank
Well, I read the blog in question and I also read your rant from yesterday. I’ll address them both. Let me start by saying…I think you’re fabulous! And you are 100% correct! The frank truth is…society has a double standard and ALWAYS will.
On this subject of self-respect…I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard guys say they would NEVER marry a woman that gives it up on the first date. All the while, that’s exactly what’s on their mind…fucking you at the very first opportunity. And most women share this same archaic point of view. I view this as complete hypocrisy and a waste of time for men and women…especially women! Consider this…you make a guy wait…a week, a month, whatever threshold you come up with…all the while he’s fucking someone else while waiting for you! Trust me…the only men who don’t, don’t have options! After you decide to fuck him, he leaves you anyway. You just wasted how many days of your life???
Same waste of time for dumb-ass guys who think women that make them wait are “worthy”. She makes you wait and then you find that pussy you waited so long for isn’t worth the time you put in. Or worse, maybe it is at first and then she stops fucking you. Either way…look at you now!
I consider myself a non-conformist thinker. I don’t participate in “group-think”. If I happen to agree with the masses…so be it, but I never conform for the sake of fitting in. You strike me as the same sort of person. Stay that way!
All that said, when I look at your two blogs together and consider your question…it’s clear you want to “have your cake and eat it too”. And that’s ok…there’s nothing wrong with that in my opinion, but you have to take it as it’s served. You say you want guys to notice you without blatantly advertsing your sexuality. Well, there are a lot of factors to consider. Is it your style of dress, your physical appearance, your attitude? While all these things matter, know this: you can absolutely attract guys with the right mix and not be the prettiest girl in the room. I don’t know where you rank on the scale, but a sexy, confident 6 can beat out a 10, especially with your kind of experience and knowledge. So, how do you let guys know?
You could dress and talk more provocatively…you could be more outgoing and aggressive…you can outright tell people who you are. But, you obviously know it’s unrealistic to not expect guys/people to judge based on your actions. It’s a double-edged sword. So, decide where your balance is. How much do you want to reveal in contrast to how much shit you want to take from people…whether it be comments or more importantly attracting the wrong guys. Do you want to stay in the closet or BURST out???
It certainly sounds like you at least want to crack the door open a bit. I think you’re on the right path. Slowly open the door and let the right people in…
Frank
